MINDING YOUR OWN BUSINESS

I think we all know people who cannot help themselves by telling everyone around them what to do, what they are doing wrong and how they should do it.  We all know that someone don't we?

This person is a self professed authority from child rearing to brain surgery and from gardening to top level physics and everything else inbetween.  These people cannot help themselves by sticking their noses into other peoples business and telling them how it is or how it should be.

I take these individuals with a pinch of salt.  Target me all you like, I particularly don't care.  I have adopted the attitude that obviously these people's lives are so shallow and boring that they immerse themselves in other peoples lives to try and make themselves feel somewhat important.

However, there is a fine line between being critical of someone or being a bully.  When their one sided views are venomous towards another which then degrades into verbal taunts then this is bullying and harrasment.  Especially when these people use children as their fodder, for making them feel good.

Most children do not have the skills to overcome such taunts and ultimately this affects their confidence and self esteem.  It can be very damaging and the effects can last for years and have a wide range of other issues that can arise.

Avoiding the negativity of these people is easy if they are in the workplace but if they are family, then avoiding them is particularly difficult, especially for a child.  In the case of children, the responsibilty lies with the parents, to identify what is going on and as difficult as it may be, take steps to remove the problem or avoid the person involved.

My experience tell me that these 'High and Mighty' people are virtually impossible to reason with, because in their minds they are right and everyone else in wrong.  These people often have a pre-conceived idea about something and that is that.  They will not be swayed even when presented with facts by someone who is expert in the field of discussion, they still think and believe that they know more!

You can see then of how difficult it is for children to deal with these people when adults can't either.  Avoidance is the key.  Just remember that these people will often end up being lonely and bitter, largely all because of their own doing.  The trick is, not to engage in heated discussion or debate with them, because you would be better off yelling at the cactus in the front yard, but to avoid heated conversation by just walking away or say nothing in response or simply just avoid the individual all together.

That's my view.....